My wife is currently working her way through a distance learning counseling course on Marriage Counseling. The lecturer has been talking this week about the biblical responsibility of a Christian husband to love his wife like Jesus loved and gave himself for the church. Most husbands are not required to die for their wives, but I think the following illustration from Fred Craddock throws another light on the idea of laying down our lives. His immediate concern was different – sacrificing our lives for Christ – but it doesn’t take much to see the relevance for husbands.
To give my life for Christ appears glorious. To pour myself out for others. . . to pay the ultimate price of martyrdom — I’ll do it. I’m ready, Lord, to go out in a blaze of glory. We think giving our all to the Lord is like taking $l,000 bill and laying it on the table– ‘Here’s my life, Lord. I’m giving it all.’ But the reality for most of us is that he sends us to the bank and has us cash in the $l,000 for quarters. We go through life putting out 25 cents here and 50 cents there. Listen to the neighbor kid’s troubles instead of saying, ‘Get lost.’ Go to a committee meeting. Give a cup of water to a shaky old man in a nursing home. Usually giving our life to Christ isn’t glorious. It’s done in all those little acts of love, 25 cents at at time. It would be easy to go out in a flash of glory; it’s harder to live the Christian life little by little over the long haul.
Husbands – what might the “25 cents at a time” look like?